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How to Win Friends and Influence People –…

How to Win Friends and Influence People (alkuperäinen julkaisuvuosi 1948; vuoden 1998 painos)

– tekijä: Dale Carnegie

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Carnegie's classic bestseller--an inspirational personal-development guide that shows how to achieve lifelong success--is now in a newly packaged edition, the first hardcover release of this classic since 1981.
Teoksen nimi:How to Win Friends and Influence People
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This pre-war work serves as a post-digital transformation guidepost to escaping the lack of resonance from likes, follows, or comments. Offering rock-solid and industrial new-old ways of connecting deeply in a maze of an iCentered «look at me»-generation... ( )
  JFederer | Jun 10, 2021 |
As the most famous and influential self-help book of the 20th century, this would be of interest to me even if I despised the self-help genre. Fortunately for the book (and for me), it was excellent. I really hate the phrase "common sense", because it's invariably applied to notions that are either uncommon or nonsensical, but Carnegie's tips for becoming a friendlier, more likable, and more admirable person are basically the distillation of every folk wisdom proverb you've ever heard, arranged in a logical order with plenty of great if sometimes idiosyncratic examples. It's difficult to review self-help books, since the doing is as important as the reading, but I think if you consciously observed successful people around you, you would see them using these tips or something very like them. This book hasn't been wildly popular for 80 years for no reason, and if everyone else used his principles on me, I think my life would be a lot more pleasant.

Of course, if Carnegie's method is so obviously successful, then why isn't everyone using it? Why do other self-help books even exist? Well, therein lies an entirely different book itself, but one metaphor I find helpful when thinking about self-help books is that of the distinction between a recipe and a cookbook. Lots of self-help books claim that they need to be followed like a recipe - use these ingredients, in these amounts, combined in this order - or else they don't work. That's how authors get rich, by selling overly exact instructions to people who just want a simple formula, and if it's not working then just purchase the next installment for a low, low price. Better books take the bigger picture and are philosophically more like cookbooks - you almost certainly won't ever make the vast majority of these dishes, but if you happen to have a few major ingredients and can adapt yourself, here are some options that fit what you have - and as a consequence are better able to capture the complexity of life. Cookbooks are composed of recipes but not limited to them, and being able to capture the essentials without demanding overly rigid implementation is the difference between real insight and a collection of clichés. Anyone can write "be a nicer person" - the trick is showing what that means as a general principle.

So what's so special about Carnegie's book? He's brief and to the point, his recommendations are sensible (be someone people like to be around, avoid confrontation and negativity, find ways to turn trouble spots into opportunities), and his examples are usually well-chosen without being confining. Most of all, he's fanatical about practicing, which I think is under-appreciated. Self-help is an active genre where results are expected - if someone got to the end of a seduction manual, laid it back on the shelf, gave it 5 stars, and then never actually used it, you would probably question either the person, the book, or the rating. It's to be expected that you need to practice these things, because they're hard. Carnegie doesn't get into the sociological questions of why some people are "natural" leaders, or why exactly these methods seem to work, or what perfect mastery would look like, but I think most readers are more interested in practical technique than theoretical underpinnings. As always, it's a cruel irony that tense situations are both the time that these recommendations would be most helpful, and the time that they're the most difficult to calmly apply, but that's why you practice.

Even when he goes awry, the sheer absurdity is often enough to make me forgive him. For example, in the very last section of Part Four ("Principle 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest") he recommends the fox-guarding-the-henhouse principle of deputizing the worst offender to prevent others from doing something that's bothering you:

"This technique of giving titles and authority worked for Napoleon and it will work for you. For example, a friend of mine, Mrs. Ernest Gent of Scarsdale, New York, was troubled by boys running across and destroying her lawn. She tried criticism. She tried coaxing. Neither worked. Then she tried giving the worst sinner in the gang a title and a feeling of authority. She made him her 'detective' and put him in charge of keeping all trespassers off her lawn. That solved her problem. Her 'detective' built a bonfire in the backyard, heated an iron red hot, and threatened to brand any boy who stepped on the lawn."

Well... okay.

So should you read this instead of one of the countless competing books? I still remember a moment in grad school where we read about a competing model to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. The elements were rearranged and reordered just enough to be different from Maslow while saying essentially the same thing, and I've never stopped being interested in how people can come up with multiple competing semi-quantitative models for explain qualitative phenomena like human interaction and even pretend to be doing rigorous science. Jessica Lamb-Shapiro did an interesting interview for NPR's Fresh Air in January 2014 about self-help, making the case that for most people, choosing between very similar self-help books ultimately boiled down to finding language that works for you. Carnegie's earnest and corny Midwesternisms probably won't work for every single person, but the person who can't find anything useful whatsoever in this quick and focused little volume is truly exceptional, and probably not in a good way. It doesn't cover everything, but then no book does. When reading it I was almost overwhelmed by recollections of times of decisions where I could have made better choices, and that seems to be the case for many people as well. It's hard to argue with his own appraisal of his book:

"If, as a result of reading this book, you get only one thing - an increased tendency to think always in terms of the other person's point of view, and see things from that person's angle as well as your own - if you get only that one thing from this book, it may easily prove to be one of the stepping-stones of your career."

Here are his principles, make up your own mind on if these look useful:

Part One: Fundamental Techniques in Handling People:
- PRINCIPLE 1: Don't criticize, condemn, or complain.
- PRINCIPLE 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation.
- PRINCIPLE 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Part Two: Six Ways to Make People Like You:
- PRINCIPLE 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
- PRINCIPLE 2: Smile.
- PRINCIPLE 3: Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- PRINCIPLE 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- PRINCIPLE 5: Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
- PRINCIPLE 6: Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Part Three: How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking:
- PRINCIPLE 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. (Bonus tips: Welcome the disagreement, distrust your first instinctive impression, control your temper, listen first, look for areas of agreement, be honest, promise to think over your opponents' ideas and study them carefully, thank your opponents sincerely for their interest, and postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem).
- PRINCIPLE 2: Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
- PRINCIPLE 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
- PRINCIPLE 4: Begin in a friendly way.
- PRINCIPLE 5: Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
- PRINCIPLE 6: Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
- PRINCIPLE 7: Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
- PRINCIPLE 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
- PRINCIPLE 9: Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
- PRINCIPLE 10: Appeal to the nobler motives.
- PRINCIPLE 11: Dramatize your ideas.
- PRINCIPLE 12: Throw down a challenge.

Part Four: Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment:
- PRINCIPLE 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
- PRINCIPLE 2: Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
- PRINCIPLE 3: Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
- PRINCIPLE 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
- PRINCIPLE 5: Let the other person save face.
- PRINCIPLE 6: Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
- PRINCIPLE 7: Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
- PRINCIPLE 8: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
- PRINCIPLE 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. ( )
  aaronarnold | May 11, 2021 |
Fantastic book which shows you the basis of how to lead an effective team as well as to ensure the most effective communication and business relationships to get greater results. Biggest lesson in this book is to be the better person, avoid the arguments, and stay positive.. points taken! Even though the book is quite dated in some of the examples, now more than ever these lessons should be used... Some downsides to the book... some of the examples they tried to pass off as actual events, they were far too perfect... also, the last chapters on marriage... these were very dated... overall a good read, and should be required reading for anyone dealing with people whether they be customers or internal peers. ( )
1 ääni sjh4255 | May 4, 2021 |
For those who haven't read it: There's a main point (or imperative) at the end of every chapter, and a corresponding rollup at the end of each section. For those with common sense and intuition, you may wish to simply read through these lists, as each chapter is simply packed with quaint stories that illuminate the points, but that (for me) don't really elevate the book above a collection of good reminders. ( )
  chrisvia | Apr 30, 2021 |
I used to consider this book (before I read it) a how-to manual for sociopaths.

It took me a long time to get around to reading it, partly because of its name. The title is a bit off-putting. It feels too much like a sales manual, like a blueprint for manipulating people. It just didn’t seem like the sort of book a modern, educated person should need to read. And it certainly wasn’t a book for a person who valued the idea of being authentic or “real.”

But mostly, in full disclosure, I put off reading it because of a personal vendetta. In my youth, I was vying to get on a local game show. I was about to advance to the next round, had a lead of 100 points with one question remaining. The question was, “Who wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People?” I rang in and answered, “Andrew Carnegie!” I was wrong, and lost 100 points. The person in second place rang in and correctly answered, “Dale Carnegie!” I lost. She won.

I must have held that grudge for many years, for it took me until recently to actually read it and evaluate it on its own merits. As to the title? I still think it’s a bad title. In our era, the title seems to convey a sense of manipulation, and its contents are contrary to that idea. The one thing Carnegie emphasizes in all of his ideas is that one must be sincere and genuine in any interaction with other people.

"Give honest and sincere appreciation…."

"Make the other person feel important, and do it sincerely…."

"Become genuinely interested in other people…."

"The principles taught in this book will work only when they come from the heart. I am not advocating a bag of tricks."

"In order to be genuine in our relationships with others, we need to start by suspending our own tendency to criticize other points of view."

"Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment."

"We can’t ever achieve understanding of, or even interest in, other people and ideas if we enter into an exchange convinced of our own superiority, and with an agenda of being 'right.'”

"Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness."

Further, he suggests avoiding arguments altogether:

"I have come to the conclusion that there is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument—and that is to avoid it. Avoid it as you would avoid rattlesnakes and earthquakes."

This book probably isn’t for everyone. Nor is every section of this book valuable for all of its readers. But, if you are willing to examine how you interact with others, and recognize that you might be able to improve these interactions, you can find some timeless advice in its contents.

"If out of reading this book you get just one thing—an increased tendency to think always in terms of other people’s point of view, and see things from their angle—if you get that one thing out of this book, it may easily prove to be one of the building blocks of your career."

More than just your career, it could be one of the building blocks of your life. ( )
  evenlake | Mar 23, 2021 |
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Introduction by Lowell Thomas - a short-cut to distinction. On a cold, winter night last January two thousand five hundred men and women thronged into the grand ballroom of the Hotel Pennsylvania in New York. Every available seat was filled by half past seven.

Introduction by Dale Carnegie - How this book was written - and why.  ... Why, then, have I had the temerity to write another book? And, after I have written it, why should you bother to read it?
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Relocated from 'first words' Common Knowledge entry -"How to Win Friends and Influence People was first published in 1937 in an edition of only five thousand copies." Which appears to be from the preface written by Dorothy Carnegie (Mrs. Dale Carnegie) to the 'revised' addition.

Following copied from Simon & Schuster (original publishers) web page on 10 May 2015 "Since its release in 1936, How to Win Friends and Influence People has sold more than 15 million copies."
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