Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide (vuoden 2019 painos)

DNF at 58%

This is a perfect example of me grabbing a book based solely on its hype. Even my library hold was roughly 6 months! Unfortunately, I was not the right audience for this book. I am not a "Murderino" and do not enjoy investigating or discussing the gruesome details associated with murders, car wrecks, etc. I don't stop to look when someone has flipped their car and paramedics are on the scene, and I don't follow murder investigations or voice my opinion on cold cases. However, I have enjoyed shows like Bones and NCIS in the past, so I didn't go into this book totally blind about its content.

Additionally, I didn't think the authors were very funny. They would pause after jokes and punch lines (if they were reading in front of a crowd or an audience), like they were expecting people to laugh. I kept imagining someone holding up a sign that let people know when they were supposed to. I'm also not opposed to cursing, because I believe words are words and it's all about intent, but they dropped f-bombs just to see how they would land. The language served no purpose and didn't add anything to the story.

It's been a while since I read this, and I honestly cannot remember much else about the story. I know they shared some of their childhood experiences (being a latchkey kid, trusting the wrong guy and being taken advantage of, saying yes and being amendable because that's what you've been taught to do as a girl in this world), but they weren't stories that really resonated with me. I could understand what they were saying - - have even experienced some of those things myself - - but their personal experiences weren't anything like mine. They had some pretty unbelievable stories, too. I kept thinking, "This was someone's life?" Even if those were truly their experiences, they were hard for me to relate to.

Paul Giamatti is one of the narrators! He has a small role (based on what I actually listened to), but I've always like him.

One thing I did like about this book was its positive spin on therapy. People believe they're broken if they seek out a therapist, but our mental health should be just as important as our physical health. Having a professional to talk to can really improve your relationships, including the one you have with yourself. (★★☆☆☆)

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K & G make my heart grow and I hope I turn out just like them when I grow up ( )

From the first word, I thought I’d hate this book. I’m so not a “Hiiiiieeee” girl, but this book was awesome, insightful, empowering. I signed up for their podcast as soon as I closed the cover. ( )

I don't think I was quite the target audience here, being male and all; but still, I enjoyed reading the story. This is much less a memoir than a collection of articles, which is fine, but I would like to have seen more relation between the separate articles. Not a bad read at all, but if you're not familiar with the rapport and conversational idiosyncrasies of each writer from the podcast it would make it rather difficult to read indeed - they write like they speak, which is quite often hard to follow if you're not thinking about their cadences in your head!

I do appreciate the attempt to "change the dialogue" away from victim blaming; however, I also think it's dangerous to shift the attention off of the things people (especially women) can do to help protect themselves - I agree: a woman didn't get murdered, someone murdered her; but in that same vein, "the right to expect a reasonable amount of safety" should always be accompanied by a plan to protect oneself, male or female.

I don't walk alone at 2 o'clock in the morning in a shitty part of Detroit - but if I did, am I asking to be murdered? Of course not. But are the risks still there? Definitely.

While we are all hoping our culture will evolve away from meaningless crime, especially those committed toward women, I find it dangerous to suggest that people don't need or shouldn't have to take any precautions to help protect themselves and to avoid putting oneself in a situation where risks for violent crimes are heightened.

Still, I'm glad that these two wonderful ladies are working toward bringing these situations to light so that we can all learn a bit more about the evils that are lurking - but really, what's the point of learning about these evils if we're not going to do more to ensure our own safety? Clearly the "system" isn't doing that for us! ( )

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this! I've been a fan of the My Favorite Murder podcast for about 2 years now (found out about it through The Dollop podcast) and reading about these women's backstories in more detail, hearing a lot of the detail on the podcast ... and then learning even more about life and friends in general, that we don't necessarily learn listening to the podcast was amazing! I took photos of so many of the pages to share with my best friend, who is not a fan of the podcast, nor does she know the two women, but she so enjoyed the paragraphs I shared with her :-)

A really great read and I am so glad I own the book!

Adrianne
PS: Because of how the book is layout -- so nicely! -- I'm really interested in buying the paperback to see if the amazing layout continues and how they manage it. It was really well put together!! ( )