Dr. Laurel Shaler

We are made for community and relationships. But sometimes, those relationships hit a sour note. In Relational Reset: Unlearning the Habits that Hold You Back, Dr. Laurel Shaler gives readers a high-level look at some areas that can be relationship killers. These include things like insecurity, envy, fear, and disappointment.

While Shaler doesn’t go too deep into any one area (the book is under 200 pages, after all), she gives real-life experiences from her clients as well as Biblical insights and questions to ask yourself in each chapter.

It’s important to examine our hearts when dealing with a difficult or dying relationship because sometimes it’s our sin that is causing the strife. This book is a great resource to keep on hand to give me that little reminder that when a relationship is struggling, I am accountable for my part in the fracture and if it’s a sin area, it’s something I need to address with God before trying to make amends with a friend or family member.

Disclosure statement: I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book and was not required to write a positive or negative review. All opinions are my own.… (lisätietoja)

I was really surprised to read the author say, " Trauma is one of the world's leading epidemics." I know things happen to people everyday and sometimes it is very traumatic. Trauma can be having been in a car accident, losing a loved one, an illness or being in a natural disaster. The list is endless and for some people those events can cause trauma that is hard to get over. I did like the first chapter because it goes into a bit more detail about trauma and has a quiz at the end of the chapter for you to take. After reading the first chapter, I was happy to see the author stressing that there are answers to the way we feel going through trauma.

I'm sure many of us have felt like we are losing our mind. The good news is, we aren't. We just need tools to help us cope with the trauma going on in our lives.I very much agree with the author that trust comes in to play after a traumatic event. The choice we make is important in dealing with trauma. I like that the author uses scriptures to emphasize her statements throughout the book.

I was anxious knowing that chapter four was coming next in my reading. I have PTSD and that is exactly what this chapter deals with. The author discusses that support groups may be helpful for some, speaking to a therapist and sometimes taking medication. I know what works best for me, but everyone must choose what they feel comfortable with. I never liked groups sessions because I was uncomfortable around people. It was always a trust issue for me and the thought of sharing my trauma with others scared me. I loved the scripture the author used to remind us about peace. " Peace I leave you; my peace I give to you." ( John 14:27) I have to remind myself of this scripture daily as anxiety tries to take over.

The book has subjects that really get to the heart of trauma and how to overcome it. I like the chapters where the author has included questions for readers to answer about your family life growing up. That is a hard one for me to fill out. I still have a long way to go, but I am a work in progress. The author writes a book that has great advice and examples of how to overcome what has kept us trapped. It may not be an easy road, but God is right there to help you. I did enjoy the book and know this one will be one I will reread many times.

I received a copy of this book from Celebrate Lit. The review is my own opinion… (lisätietoja)