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Greg Baer, M.D. is a successful surgeon, teacher, and businessman. Dr. Baer has appeared on more than 1,000 radio and television shows, speaks at workshops and seminars, and is the founder of Loving Groups around the country. He lives with his family in Georgia

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Yleistieto

Syntymäaika
c. 1952
Sukupuoli
male
Asuinpaikat
West Rome, Georgia, USA

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I was not impressed with this book.

Having read perhaps 20% of it, I began to get the impression that he has a background in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, but is no longer active in the church.

The turning point (page Xii) came when he had a gun pointed at his head and "realized that I couldn't rationalize my behavior any longer. I knew I had to do something about my life." ... "the end of my twenty-two-year marriage." (page XIII)

Why is it that so many of the relationship self help books are written by people who really messed up their lives before writing about how the rest of us should do it? I think I already answered this question elsewhere since I have often discussed it with Carol. Not long after reading that I stopped reading the book, and didn't pick it up again for several weeks.

When I resumed reading I found him going on and on about "unconditional love". Since that is a phrase much bandied about nowadays, I checked the church web site, and found it is a correct principle. However, even correct principles are often incorrectly applied. I might love a reckless teenager, but the doesn't mean I give him the keys to the car.

10/20/2006 I finished it a few days ago. The last chapter or two were much more meaningful than the middle. I gave it to Carol for her to read, and have since gotten rid of the book.
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bread2u | 1 muu arvostelu | Jul 1, 2020 |
Real Love in Marriage intricately explains how to change your own behavior to be more loving to your partner. It teaches with real-world dialogged examples how to approach everyday annoyances from a new viewpoint: how to confess your shortcomings and lack of loving behavior to your partner. Baer calls this "telling the truth about yourself" to your partner. He indicates that telling the truth about yourself is the very thing that can bring you back into a loving state of mind. If your partner only retaliates with verbal attacks and anger, your job is to find a "wise woman" or "wise man" who also knows the principles of Real Love and then confess your unkind behavior to them so they can show you unconditional acceptance, which leads to you feeling more love in your life and gives you strength to try talking to your spouse again.… (lisätietoja)
 
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JessicaALV | 1 muu arvostelu | May 27, 2010 |
Spiritual and an excellent resource for anyone interested in working on being a better partner!
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bridget72 | 1 muu arvostelu | Sep 15, 2007 |
If we have not learned how to love, we may believe that love can be found by pursuing praise, power, pleasure, and safety. Greg Baer calls this Imitation Love in his book “Real Love.â€? While these things are not inherently bad, they will never provide true happiness when they become a substitute for real love. We may choose these forms of Imitation Love simply because we do not realize there is another choice.
When we do not receive unconditional love, we feel empty and afraid, and learn getting and protecting behaviors, which are actions to get others to like us or to avoid and prevent others from hurting us. Brief satisfaction may result from these behaviors, but the long-term damage is considerable, the worst effect being that they make it impossible to feel Real Love even when it’s actually being given to us. Only when we take the risk of telling the truth about ourselves is there the possibility of unconditional love.… (lisätietoja)
 
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dailyplanit | 1 muu arvostelu | Jul 11, 2006 |

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13
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127
Suosituimmuussija
#158,248
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4
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18
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1

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